I stopped by Punknews the other day and noticed that they had posted a note about the Epoxies benefit show. It wasn’t that note that caught my eye, it was the last of the posts.
http://www.punknews.org/article/37930
I remember the Buffalo show. I remember that girl. I’m not sure how I’d react now almost 5 years later. I know my inner (angry) Bostonian is still with me and I’m not sure if she’d come out or not.
The girl was flipping us off and yelling insults from the back of the room. I told her that I was sorry that we didn’t fit into any of her chapters from her Hot Topic book on punk. I asked her to come forward and she wanted to fight me. When I spit, it actually landed on the young man next to her. I apologized to him after the show and he told me that he was never going to wash again. (Ew.) I was glad he was understanding.
I’m not sure how I feel about my reaction that night at this point. I am generally not someone who gets into physical fights. I’ve done some boxing and played some hockey in the past. Regardless, that reaction. I don’t know.
I got a note on Facebook from someone a few weeks ago asking me to get rid of their friend request as I’d not accepted it. I’ve met him a couple of times. I don’t know him well and the second time we interacted he almost started a fight with a slightly ornery drug dealer. I don’t find that appealing. Some things are not worth starting.
Anyhow, I’ve about 200 unaccepted friend requests on Facebook. I waffle between weeding through and letting everyone in. Am I so special to say no to someone on a fricken’ social networking site? Am I so neutral as to say yes?
It’s made me think of my protective walls once again. These are the walls that get me in trouble and create stilted and awkward conversation. Maybe I should just show that awkward to everyone and get over myself. Who doesn’t have an awkward moment now and then.
Silly humans.
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If I’m not mistaken, you can withdraw any friend requests you make if the other person has ignored it. Seems a bit passive-aggressive and lame to bother writing you about it.
I don’t know what to say about the friend requests. I’d be curious as to the people’s motivation more than anything else. If I were in your position I’d probably go through the trouble of dual accounts (of course that would have the same issues eventually.)
I myself feel incredibly awkward friend requesting artists, I generally go by how many friends they have to get an idea of their feelings. If we weren’t already acquainted I’d probably friend you, considering you have 450+ friends. I wouldn’t get butthurt if you ignored it though (well, maybe a little.)
But seriously, if somebody is offended that you didn’t add them as a friend on facebook that person is not your friend.
Bet she thought you’re real “punk rawk” after that haha.
You kick lotsa ass Roxy (not literally). keep rocking.
I have 2 accounts on Facebook. One for aboveground people & my friends, and one for my friends.
For both I am still really choosy. I don’t think collecting friends like trading cards is worth my time. That said, at my day job (Alternative Tentacles) we collect as many facebook friends as we can get. Of course, we’re using facebook for a completely different purpose- to get the word out about our awesome records to as many people as possible (hint hint)!